Out-of-Court Options: Part 2

Earlier this month, I reviewed a number of options available to separating spouses who are willing – and able – to resolve their issues outside of the courtroom: a “kitchen table agreement”, mediation and negotiation. Today, in the conclusion to my two-part post on out-of-court family law processes, I discuss three more: 1. Collaborative Law Collaborative law is a holistic …

Out-of-Court Options: Part 1

While separation and divorce inevitably involve some degree of pain, the process of separation need not be “a fight to the bitter end.”  In fact, other than in exceptional circumstances, going to court ought to be a last resort, for many reasons: Having worked as a judicial clerk in BC Supreme Court and a student intern in BC Provincial Court, …

There are many ways to deal with the family home in separations

While going through the separation process, one of the biggest decisions for many couples is what to do about the family home. If you own your home, and particularly if most of your family equity is in the home itself, this decision can be even more challenging. For some, dividing the equity in the home between the two of you …

The Voices of Children

Going through a separation or divorce with children can add another layer of emotional stress and uncertainty for spouses. Parents often struggle with how much, if anything, to share with their children, how to communicate with them about the separation, and how to involve them in the process in a healthy way. Sometimes, in an effort to spare their children …

Uncoupling

A few years ago, Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin made headlines when they asked people to respect their privacy as they walked through “conscious uncoupling.”  This new language reflected their commitment to separate and divorce in an intentional, amicable and holistic way, minimizing the harm on themselves and their children. More and more couples are realizing that this is not …

Video: Elderly Parents’ Separation and Divorce

As an adult child of separation and divorce, it’s natural to want to help your parents through the process. In our latest video, lawyer and mediator Rebecca Stanley offers a few things you can do to provide support.  

Continuing with your separation in a COVID-19 world

For those of you who are in the middle of separation and divorce, this uncertain time in our communities and world due to COVID-19 may create even more anxiety. What do we do now? How will our separation process move forward? What if a delay in the process leaves me financially vulnerable, due to employment issues or the state of …

Attending Mediation with Lawyers Present

Mediation is an option that many separating couples are choosing these days.  Sometimes couples will jointly retain a mediator at the beginning of their process and attend with the mediator on their own, retaining lawyers only to provide independent legal advice (what lawyers call ILA) before signing the mediated agreement.  However, many others prefer having legal counsel attend and advocate …